A Balanced Mother is a woman of faith. A woman of destiny and a woman highly favoured by God. Mom, you are a Home maker not home improvement. And if you strives for perfection, then you'll become a dirt on your husband head, not a crown.
How many moms fall into the trap of believing that they need to be "perfect mother" who raise "perfect Childrens?" that they need to mother a certain way, dress a certain way, keeps their homes a certain way & discipline a certain way. That their kids need to behave a certain way, look certain way & speak certain way.
Those "Certain ways" for their kids are called puppets, not children, and Mom behaving like Actresses not Mothers.
A. First things first! Let's define the problem of many mothers. Today we will be trembling about some measure for the future because of the decay of home religion. And this decay while traceable in some measure to the madness for money and pleasure among men, is traceable even more to this same madness among women. Moms were unbalanced because of changing their focus.
Here to observe:
1. Woman's right - Today they are in the state of transition. She was not fully found of herself. There has come to her a new sense of freedom which hasn't made her better but worst.
2. Great Imitator - She has become in considerable measure an imitator of men. Sad to say, she imitates his vices instead of his virtue. She often patterns after what is worst in him instead of what is best.
3. Addiction - Women club of the city having the handsomest place smoking & drinking room. Now Mom had a right to smoke or drink liquor and some addicted to gambling with sex.
4. Birthing problem - We can never deny her right to do that, but we have absolutely no hope for the rearing of a right generation at the hands of a flippant cigarette smoking and a drunkard mother. The child is half damned in it's birth.
B. Perfect V/S Balanced - Mom, you are not supposed to be perfect but balanced Mother. What is the difference between a perfect and a balanced mother?
1. The importance of their title - The world calls the moms to be a perfect mothers. but God calls moms a balance mother.
2. Differentiate between perfect mother against balanced mother -
a. in a relationship. A Perfect mother puts appearance (busy socializing/beautification) above relationship. A Balanced mother sacrifices appearance for relationship.
b. Their focus. A perfect mother seeks approval from others. A Balanced mother seeks approval from God & family members not demanding or critical w/ controlling behavior.
c. The rewards. A perfect Mother finds reward in perceived (dynamic career) success. A "Balanced" Mother's reward is a peaceful heart, family and home (intimacy to God)
d. What they treasured. A perfect mother perpetuates the lie & spreads disillusionment (discouragement) a balanced mother breaks the lie, spreads hope, truth and inspiration.
1. Flexibility and availability. Morning, noon and night. (Deu 6:6-7)
2. Involvement - Interacting discussing, thinking and processing life together. (Eph 6:4)
3. Teaching - The scriptures and a biblical world view. (Deu 4:10)
4. Training - Helping a child to develop skills and discover his/her strengths (Pro. 22:6)
5. Discipline - Teaching the fear of the Lord, drawing the line consistently, lovingly, and firmly (Heb 1:5-11)
6. Nurture - Providing an environment of constant verbal support, freedom to fall, acceptance, affection, unconditional love (Eph 4:29-32)
7. Model with Integrity - Living what you say, being a model from which a child learn by "catching" the essence of godly living. (Pro. 11:3)
III. Conclusion:
Prov. 31:10 "Her (mother) worth is far above rubies. Mom, you're Mrs. Good thing. Each person has been uniquely formed and destined to accomplish specific tasks and goals. The point is that you were given a life by God to be a woman of destiny and to impact the lives around you. You could make an impact like the mother of Moises who grow up to be mighty deliverer for God's kingdom or just as He called queen esther used by God to preserve the Nation of Israel.
TO GOD BE THE GLORY!